Playbook for Navigating an Unwanted Divorce
A Common Sense Guide to Coming Out the Other Side a Better Human Being
The sister situation to the vicious cycle is the virtuous cycle, a spiral that climbs upward instead of down. The catalyst for a virtuous cycle is positive activity and feedback instead of negative actions, doubt, and stagnation. The result is an incremental progression towards growth …
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Human beings are incredibly good at getting trapped in vicious cycles when faced with challenges in life. When divorce hits and we’re faced with one of life’s biggest obstacles, getting caught in a negative feedback loop is pretty common. The American Psychological Association defines a …
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I remember the night we told my kid we were getting divorced. It was a hot summer night in the middle of summer in 2016. I dragged my feet, one heavy step behind another, to the kitchen island where my soon-to-be ex sat with my …
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When I was a kid, we used to play football in a grassy empty lot between an old church and a huge old house in my hometown. The space was wide enough to get a good game going and the house and church on either …
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I work for a small tech company in the Pittsburgh-area. The stuff we do is complicated and the companies we do it for have names for which 90 percent of the population wouldn’t be familiar. We recently brought on a guy to lead our cybersecurity …
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It’s late June 2016 and I’m using a shaking hand to close the heavy door to my house. Outside, in the stillness of the summer night, I hear the door close on my wife’s car. She drives away, heading to her parents for the night, …
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Learning to take the divorce for what it actually was from an objective standpoint. You get on with whatever acceptance looks like for you and begin forging a path forward.
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Learn how to deal with the 20-ton nuclear bomb has detonated in your life, find ways to actually accept it, and stop denying it.
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This is the heavy lifting part of the process that involves reframing your challenges, changing your thinking around what stands between you and your goals, and reexamining the demise of your relationship.
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Getting a handle on yourself and starting to make better choices, so a light washes over the darkness in your life.
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